I'm not sure about others, but I tend to focus on what my problems are! I've mentioned before trying to stay away from the question WHY? Why am I so emotional? Why can't I just accept this loss? What is my problem!
Some investigation is helpful, of course. If I'm constantly disappointed by people or events, perhaps I can look at my expectations....and not having them! I find they always get me into trouble. There is plenty of room for improvement in all of us. However it can be a slippery slope, easily morphing into judgement and criticism. The last stage is narrowly focusing on the issue or problems you have. This is called....resisting (obsessing, worrying, ruminating etc.)
Trying to rid yourself of unwanted thoughts and feelings can be summed up as resistance. I believe this is based in fear. When that happens, things persist. What we resist, persists.
Acceptance is the antidote. Accept your crappy, judging thoughts and emotions for what they are...passing, human and natural. Move on. Don't give them power. Make changes; improvements where you can. But be kind to yourself. Constant critique and evaluation only adds stress. Get back to the present moment. Take a breath. Make a mindfulness jar! I just read about it at http://mindfulnessjar.com/mind-calming-glitter-jar/
We all have problems. Some will be there tomorrow or in 5 minutes. But right now, all can be well. In this moment.
Nameste
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